The cuteness is almost too much to handle
Don’t Pick A Way
Don’t pick a way. That’s the advice given to me today by my best friend and super awesome partner in crime, Joel. I was waxing ecstatic about how awesome this guy I had met was, and how much fun we’d had together, but was trying to psych myself out of being *too* excited. This is the theory: If I’m TOO excited, it won’t work out, and if I’m not excited enough (even if it’s a fake less-than-excited), then it will. Which is, as you know, absolutely ridiculous.
I may even have let the words “It won’t work out, because I’m being absurd about it. It won’t go my way.”
“So don’t pick a way” he says. Which, to an extent, makes sense. If I don’t try to predetermine my own life and how it’s going to go, I can’t be disappointed by what DOES happen. If I’m open to the possibilities, then whatever happens is what happens.
But, as good advice as that may be, it’s still hard not to have hope and expectations, right?
I’ve gone into every encounter with another person hoping it will turn out GOOD, but what I should really be entering these encounters with is the acceptance that it will just BE. Neither good nor bad, just IS.
It might even be a Nihilistic perspective, but it’s a healthy one when dealing with other humans, who also have free will and the right to make up (and change) their own minds. You can’t make anyone be your friend, or think you’re awesome, or even leave you alone when you don’t return their feelings – so what makes any one of us think we should know what’s best for ourselves?
Right.
This is what I’ll tell myself next time I start feeling giddy over some guy I think is the bee’s knees.
Filed under 'spection, life, whatnot | Comment (0)Eat, Pray, Spend.
My new column is up over at Intrepid Media about the new genre of Priv-Lit and how to be happy without spending a fortune.
“It’s almost as if the recession ended and no one told me (or gave me a raise). For some, spending a fortune on taking a vacation is the point rather than a means to an end (the experience). It’s just another form of elitism. Even in these economic times, I read in a Gallup poll done in May of this year, Americans report that they are expecting to vacation less this year, but intend to spend more on transportation and other holiday and leisure costs.”
Read more at IM!
